Vida Emocional: R u good at interacting?

Ok ..Formal exams over. Still has one more take-home exam to complete and then.. yes, slight freedom for a week.

Anyways, not here to complain or discuss bout sch work. Actually, kinda lost and have no idea wat to focus on in this post. I m still gonna post pics of what i had done a few months back but well ya, other than that.. this time round, feel like venting some stuff out. But where to start, on what exactly? ... honestly, the answer is i have no idea.

like i said in my previous post, i really get to learn a lot about people here. not as in culture. But just characters, personalities, attitudes and simply..human interaction. Dont u think human interaction is such a simple unavoidable essence of life but yet although we go through it every single day, we will never master it. I dont know whether is it just me, but i really think that it is not easy to grasp the idea of peaceful human interaction at all times. I mean, not all conversations or contacts i have with people go wrong. But there are just times when i think it's so hard to just get my message across or to understand the other party. I have no idea where to start explaining the difficulties i find/realise, let it be on me or others. Nevertheless, i think it's time for me to clear my own mind and to just let it all out.

Problem 1: When u r angry, how do u force urself to understand the other party?

- Being considerate is not hard when u have the energy/time/capability to comprehend and accommodate the other party... But how about when u have no time, u have no mood, no energy or simply jus have a conflict of interest, would u still bring forward ur consideration and sacrifice urself to make the other party happy?

Problem 2: How do u get your message across when the other party is mad??

- Dont u think getting ur message across is such a big hurdle to overcome when the person u r trying to talk to is mad or simply just too focused on one side of the issue? I can still remember the times when i tried to get my msg across to my parents or XXX, and when i just couldnt seem to do it, my tears trickled down unintentionally. And i would just give up convincing them or clarifying my points. Bcos i just couldnt do it. I would rather go, keep quiet, let it pass and then forget about it. Which is not good sometime as the underlying problems may happen again. All in all, i just find it hard to get my msg across in some circumstances.

Problem 3: Is face-to-face the best mean of interaction??

-Been talking over the phone, using skype, videocall etc more often nowadays. These new forms of digitised means of conversation definitely help to connect people from all over the world. Thus we can never say that they r bad. But they can never beat some of the features face-to-face interation has, can they?? For example, u cant exactly see the person's expression and u never get the hint from the facial expression or body language the person may have. The person may not be in a good mood and u just cant simply see it when u r not physically together. So when u crack a joke in this situation, it would probably be a bad decision. But is f2f the best? Does it breed more conflicts?? Unlike sms and instant msg when u can run through wat u were gonna say once, twice or thrice in ur mind b4 saying it. But f2f, impulsion may rule u. So?? Do u think f2f is the best? To me, i think it depends....But so what if it depends. We dont get a choice to use which forms of communication sometimes, which means we cant avoid some of the shortcomings of whichever means we have to use. So do we need to overcome ourselves mentally and emotionally to take control of the situation all the time? If so, the question is..can u do it all the time????

There r more i wish to say.. i m sorry if this post gets nowhere. I m just brabbling here. Just dont feel like keeping everything to myself sometimes.

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Anyways, some pics before i end. Met up with Joanna, Irwin and Boon Shie a few months back when Irwin came to Melb from Tassie. Yes, Joanna as in Joanna Chung, from Convent. It had been so long since i last met her before this. About 10 years i would say. So glad to get to see her again!

David & Joanna